Kyle was born in Pomona, CA on January 18, 1985 to the proud parents of Julie and Jim Burke. Kyle’s early years were spent living next door to his grandparents until he was 12. He was very close to his Grandma and Papa so it was a difficult for him moving away from them. Kyle’s family made the difficult decision to move to a better school district in Hesperia, also in southern California. Kyle joined the Army on January 27, 2004 and was on his way to become a MP (Military Police) however while completing training at Fort Leonard, Missouri, Kyle suffered his one and only asthma attack. The Army unfortunately discharged him on May 6th of the same year. Kyle attended California Culinary Academy in San Francisco from July 2005 to September 2006 graduating with an Associate’s degree. The move to San Francisco became a life changing event for him: Moving around so much I found it difficult to find friends, that is until I turned 19 and moved to San Francisco. Once I found myself on my own in an environment that was accepting of my life style I started to blossom. Kyle worked in the food industry after graduation, mostly in grocery purchasing and sales. In June 2012 Kyle injured himself at work resulting in serious damage to 3 disks in his back and required major corrective surgery. Kyle had a long road to recovery, and suffered from back pain to the day he passed. Kyle started working for Safeway in Moraga this year and he went from a part-time job to full time within just a few weeks. Kyle enjoyed working for Safeway and it soon became apparent that Safeway would have become his career. Safeway management noticed Kyle’s abilities and were considering him for a manager position of the Produce department. Anybody that knew Kyle would be not surprised that Kyle owned 24 vehicles from his first, a 1993 Pontiac Grand Am to his last one, a 2003 Toyota Tacoma PreRunner V6. Alex found the list and found that he under countered, by five vehicles! They still own way too many. On June 22, 2007 Kyle and Alex met for the first time, Alex was flattered by the attention Kyle gave him over the next couple months. Alex however was holding off due to the age difference. In the fall of 2007 Kyle returned to live with his parents (Alex-NorCal, Kyle-SoCal). It soon became apparent that Alex missed Kyle a great deal and invited Kyle for a visit early in 2008, and, well, Kyle never left. In June 2009 they moved to their current home in Concord, a lot of hard work went into the home to fix it up with hands-on help from his parents. On September 26, 2011 they began to formalize their commitment to each other when they became Domestic Partners. On November 15, 2013 they were officially married, after the Supreme Court struck down the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) on June 26, 2013. The narrow 5-4 decision found that the federal law known as DOMA deprived the equal liberty of persons that is protected by the Constitution. I have lived with my husband of 10 years we have 3 wonderful dogs and reside in Concord on the Clayton border. In October of this year they lost their oldest dog Luke that they loved as a child. On the night of November 9th Kyle passed away in his sleep, due to respiratory arrest that was related to his sleep apnea. Kyle is survived by his husband Alexander, his parents Julie and Jim Burke, his sisters Wendy, Chelsie and Jennifer and his brother Austin, in-laws Mike, Terri, and Danita, and nephew and nieces, Katja, Dominique, Sydney, Camden and Hazel. And not to forget their “children” Cooper and Toby.
A formal service will be held in June 2020, exact date to be determined, his ashes will be scattered from a boat just passed the Golden gate bridge in San Francisco. We will post the date through Facebook.
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